Disagree Without Being Disagreeable

It is inevitable that you're going to discover youself to be in situations that you just will not on the identical side as others. It's just a part of life.
If all of us agreed, that could make for a unique situation, but try because you might, it simply is not likely to happen.
The problem becomes once we find inside us those situations where we disagree with other people.
How can we handle it?
What can we say?
How should we express ourselves?
These are all very good questions.
The concern is that there is no one good way to take care of these situations that works every time. In fact, the issue is just amplified and magnified if it is a situation where we care deeply concerning the outcome or the results. Sure, whenever we didn't care, you can easily move on. But more often than not we do care.
Think relating to this:
If you're gonna lunch with some friends and everyone wants a hamburger, what should you do? You choose which hamburger restaurant or fast food place to check out, then you definitely come to a concensus, make a choice, go there and luxuriate in that juicy hamburger, right?
Now let's change that up a bit. Say you want a salad because you're looking to drop a number of those pounds you're gaining because of all those juicy hamburgers you have been eating. People start throwing round the names of hamburgers joints and you want one that makes a decent salad too. You pick one, you are going there together with your friends, you then chow upon that healthy salad when they have their collection of burgers. Not too much controversy there, right?
Let's go one step further. Now you're going to lunch along with your friends again and everyone wants a hamburger but you. You need a salad. But on this occasion it isn't because you're trying to lose weight, but alternatively you're a vegetarian. Now what a different thing altogether, isn't it?
How does which get worked out. There are few options here too.
You could just go along towards the Hamburger Fries & Shake (youtu.be) restaurant and order your salad, rather than pay attention to burgers being served. That could work.
Or you might go along and order your salad, although the burgers are served let your mates know why you're receiving a salad, and suggest they are doing the same.
Or you might go along towards the restaurant making a scene when the burgers are ordered, explaining how eating meat, in your opinion, is not only wrong but disgusting and immoral.
Or, in the event the idea of eating hamburgers is brought up in the car, you may throw a fit, curse out your mates for doing what you consider the murder and devouring of innocent animals. You could inform them how they all disgust you and where did they should see things on your path.
I guess that is an option.
There's a high probability, however, it does not matter what you do in different of these scenarios, your mates are still going to go to a restaurant that serves some juicy hamburgers, with or without you, and that is exactly what they are gonna order.
Think relating to this:
You will make an impression to them, but then again you may not. And if you do, could it be really the type of impression you want to make or perhaps be remembered for?
In most of these scenarios you might be disagreeing with your friends. They want something and also you want something more important. That happens everyday, in everyone's life. The difference the following is that your factors behind disagreeing change and how you express yourself changes also, all based upon how attached and strongly you really feel about your particular position.
Diet versus vegetarian.
Explaining your role versus shoving it down their throats.
As a general rule this is a good idea, and very possible, to disagree with individuals without being disagreeable in the act, simply because this overly simplified example of lunch along with your friends shows. Now don't get me wrong here. That is just not to say that in a few instances you may have no choice but to shove your role down other peoples throats - figuratively speaking. You might have to do that to have your point across or to convince them with the importance of your situation or a situation if it's absolutely necessary.
But doing so should be the absolute last alternative that you just jump to, not a weapon associated with preference.
It is surprising that the calm, well thought out explanation for basically anything can be a long way to resolve a scenario and let you keep your pals or a minimum of their attention and respect. You can get much further, in most cases, than an abrasive, abusive stance is going to take you.
As the phrase goes, "You catch more flies with honey than you are doing with vinegar." That's true for most situations.
Choose your positions, choose your battles, choose your tactics and choose your words with care and caution, and also you'll get much further in life. If you do so you will find that people could be more apt to listen to everything you have to state, and they're going to like you, and if not as you at least respect you for it as well.
You can disagree without being disagreeable in the operation, but still get your point across.
Think over it and let me know whatever you think!
Your Friend,
Judge J.
The Humble Judge